
When I hear about Indian weddings, they last for a couple of days, and preparation is done many months ahead. They are very bright and colourful. A friend of mine went to two weddings within the same month. I always love to hear her stories. When it’s her wedding, I’ll be able to experience one for myself.
So I was wondering what a traditional wedding might look like in China because I’m not familiar with marriage rituals, or weddings in general. Here’s what I’ve found out.

In China, marriage became a custom between 402 – 221 B.C. On the whole there are six rituals known as “three letters and six etiquette”.
There are three letters: request letter, gift letter and wedding letter. The request letter is given to the bride’s family from the groom’s family to formally request a marriage. The gift letter accompanies the gifts of the groom’s family to the bride’s family before the wedding. Last but not least, the wedding letter. This is given on the actual wedding day, which is an official acceptance of the bride into the groom’s family.
The “six etiquettes” are the proposal, birthdates, bride price, wedding gifts, arranging the wedding and the wedding ceremony.
Some of the preparations are for example, the bride-to-be will be put in a separate part of the house with her closest friends, but away from her family. During this time, they sing laments to mourn the bride’s separation from her family.
Another is the installation of the bridal bed. On the day before the wedding, a new bed is purchased. Children are invited onto the bed as an omen to fertility. So the more children there are on the bed, the better. Red dates, oranges, lotus seeds, peanuts and pomegranates are put on the bed.
The actual day of the wedding is divided up into 5 parts. There is a “hair dressing ritual” for the bride and a “capping” ritual for the groom. This symbolises their start into adulthood and are very important to wedding preparations. Red, which is a symbol of joy, is predominantly in their clothing.
The other parts are the procession from the groom’s house to obtain the bride, then the bride’s journey to the groom’s house and lastly, arriving at the groom’s house.
The wedding ceremony is fairly simple in comparison to the preparations. At the family alter, the bride and groom pay homage to Heaven and Earth, the family ancestors and the kitchen God. Tea, with two lotus seeds or two red dates are put into a cup and offered to the groom’s parents. Then the bride and groom bow to each other. This completes the marriage ceremony.
